LAZY to type out everything again so... copy and paste is the way to go. 

HOUSING WOES

8.57pm: I think no sticker can effectively show how irritated I am with my housing situation. Actually dunno if irritated is the word to use. Just very 无奈。

I am now starting to appreciate the value of a HDB proposal. It's unromantic yes, but right now and in this current day and age I think practically wins over bring romantic. Bread and butter issues (like having a roof over your head) still wins. To think i was adamant that the proposal shld come before the flat. I eat my words now!

Not like paul and I had the luxury of time like other couples who have been dating for years. We got engaged when we were only 10 months old and even if we had heng heng gotten a flat just barely 3 months into the relationship it would have been too rushed and also BTOs take at least 3 years to build.

Now we are potentially homeless after we get married because everything is so expensive. Options are:

1) stay in Paul's house 

We would save some on rental but we have to sleep in the utilities room. Which is right next to the kitchen and toilet. And the room is so tiny it can only fit a bed and nothing else.

Also there is the mother in law and daughter in law relations to consider. And not as much privacy. Travelling time to work for me would be longer.

2a) stay in the flat that Paul's parents are renting out

Pros: more privacy but yet his parents are easily accessible since they are just next door. But that would mean a loss in income for them (they are retired). Of course we would give them more allowance but I doubt we can match up to the rental that they are collecting now.

Which brings me to...

2b) share the rental flat with strangers

Paul and I take 1 bedroom, and the rest of the house gets rented out to strangers. Cons: no privacy, the whole house only has 1 toilet, which means like 5 or 6 ppl gotta share 1 toilet. I'm really not keen.
Pros: Paul's parents get their income, we save on some rental

3) stay at my house

I just proposed this idea to my mom and she's ok, except that she says there's no space and we need to create some space. The roadblock is in the form of my sister. When I proposed that she moves to the study room and 2 of us take the room we usually sleep in (makes more sense, more space there for a queen size bed), she reacted SO NEGATIVELY by screaming and shouting and crying and in tears said she doesn't like the study room. Ok lor, point taken. I can take the study room

But she makes us feel unwelcome. Like I'm an intruder in my own house, hello?! She's already 17 but why cannot be more understanding?! Im only proposing and nothing is cast in stone. Don't have to be so drama and act like I am robbing u of something pls. 

She wants ppl to see her as a young adult then she shld act like one la. I see this i already sian by half. One 5 room flat and 3 ppl staying in it, yet there's no space? Or she's waiting for this day for years and I just shattered her dreams of having her own room?

Also lifestyle issues if Paul stays at my house. I dunno if he will be comfortable. :(

4) rent room from sister and Bro in law

Pros: at least we have a room. And it's an EC so there are facilities that we can use.
Cons: very far from Paul's school and rent chargeable at 700. Looks like the best option for now.
I get conflicting opinions like sisters shld not stay tgt (they are also newly weds after all) and 谈钱伤感情 comments though.

5) rent from HDB's PPHS (?) Scheme

An old refurbished 3-room flat at tiong bahru will cost us 1000 a month. And must see if we are lucky enough to get. I mean our aim really is to reduce cost first so 1000 x 12 months x 3 years is really a sizable amount of money. But compared to 700 for a room at my sister's place in punggol then 1000 for a whole flat in tiong bahru sounds quite ok. Ultimately it's the cost.

6) rent a room from outside 

Cons: wld have to stay with strangers and cost is abt the same as renting from my sister so not likely to opt for this

So irritated la! Is there no space in this whole world for the 2 of us?!?!?!