Sometimes ah~

Not that I don't want to be encouraging or supportive but sometimes it gets quite exasperating if the person you're trying to enlighten doesn't see the light! Sorry ah, I don't know how else I can help.

Let's just say I have a friend who is single and she is very very very eager to find her life partner. Her wish is simple - which is to travel with her life partner.

But at the same time she is a wee bit mopey about it, gets discouraged easily, feels that her life partner will never come, thinks about it all the time, gets anxious and impatient, questions where her life partner is and why isn't God bringing the person to her, and sometimes I get the sense that she is envious of what others have because she knows she'll never get the chance to experience it.

I mean, 爱情不能强求 right? Like Saint's famous words, when it comes, it comes. Or the famous taxi analogy, it comes when you don't want it and it doesn't come when you want it. Or maybe it appears when you least expect it. Of course, always good to keep an open mind like when I was single hurhur and met a few weirdos during the Journey to Better Things - but treat it like a bonus. Excellent if you get one! But if you don't, well life goes on.

I understand where she is coming from because it can honestly get quite sian when all your friends are like busy with their other halves or you're out with a bunch of friends + their halves and you're the only single lonesome person. So I tell her, you need to be patient, let go and trust God since she believes that He has a plan for her. Good things will come. Then comes remarks like "easier said than done", "only I know the pain and how much I want the bonus (i.e. life partner)".

Hitherto lies the problem - if you are longing for it so much, the more you won't get it. Sometimes it's like the universe is conspiring against you. The more you want something, the more difficult it is to attain it. At least that's how I see it, especially when it comes to the intangibles like love, the more desperate you search, the harder it is to find. I think the best way out of this is to LET GO and stop harping on the fact that you have no life partner. Let the universe do its own thing.

Plus if your mindset's already negative then I would think like attracts like; people generally gravitate towards positivity. Also how do you expect to meet new people if all you do is to stay at home?

I would be very happy to see her happy because she is a very loyal friend and she deserves to be happy but sometimes I think my Ms Fix-It tendencies kick in and I try to give her advice, which ends up frustrating me because she is not receptive to my solutions.

Oh well. Sometimes there's no need to offer help when it's not needed; clearly this is a situation where she wants to be left alone to mope in her deep dark thoughts and she probably thinks that I am not in a position console her.

In other news, my LITTLE SISTER is reading the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy. *horror gasp*
I tried to ask her (awkward much) if she knows what the book is about and I said there's adult content. (I obviously suck at the birds and bees talk.)

She said she already finished reading the 2nd book and wanted to read the 1st to have context of the story.
-_____-"

I am not sure if a book about SM and tall dark handsome men with issues and vulnerable young things who succumbs to said tall dark handsome man is appropriate for a 16-year-old. I didn't even read sex scenes in books till I was about 17 or 18! And I am not sure if she has the mental capabilities to differentiate between fact and fiction. You know teens these days tend to be very influenced by what they see and read. And not to mention the repetitive adjectives and descriptive phrases, I mean, this book is not what we would call "brain nourishment". At least read a book with better writing!!!

But then sigh, what can I do right. Even if she doesn't get the book from me she'll get it from other sources. I shall trust that my sister is smart enough not to be influenced by 3 books and repetitive words; I think teens nowadays are smarter than we give them credit for. And besides she probably already knows more than what I think she knows. I was a very suaku kid last time but times have changed! Unforuntately she is very very very angsty. I sure hope this angsty teen thing is just a phase.

Shinhwa's 16th anniversary concert was held in Seoul over the weekend and I forgot about it! :(
I have failed as a Shinhwa fan. Hahaha.

OK I have a stack of payment vouchers waiting for me to check. Sigh.

WISH I WAS STILL ON HOLIDAY. :x

LOL!!!!!!!

Hilarious review of Fifty Shades Darker - http://www.amazon.com/review/RYSJE0MRSAAW5/ref=cm_cr_dp_title/187-1217350-7343153?ie=UTF8&ASIN=0345803493&nodeID=283155&store=books

and Fifty Shades Freed - http://www.amazon.com/review/R16U7WCSXSQRJR/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm

LOL!!! I totally agree with whatever the reviewer wrote. It's like crack!!!

About two weeks ago, I was hooked onto the Fifty Shades trilogy.

If you haven't heard of the infamous Fifty Shades of Grey, that's fine because you know, perhaps erotica is not your thing. LOL.

It started out as a fanfic for Twilight and now it has morphed into a pretty popular series, earning labels such as "mummy porn" along the way. If you are squirmish about reading sex scenes then this is probably not for you. The books are rather graphic in their descriptions (though I have definitely read more well crafted prose compared to the reptitive descriptions of the author - I suppose there are only so many ways you can describe people having sex LOL), and it seems like Anastasia Steele (female protaganist) and Christian Grey (rich, arrogant, brooding, troubled and handsome-to-a-fault male lead) were just lusting after each other for a good part of the book. They have awesome libidos I must say, half the book is probably about them trying to bed each other. Anyway.


While I did read a bit of trashy romances many many years ago and quite enjoyed it because it fed into my need for a dark brooding and handsome man whisking me away hahahaha, Fifty Shades has some darker elements, such as broaching the rather-kinky-and-not-my-cup-of-tea topic of Bondage, Discipline, Sadism & Masochism. To be honest, I did feel a little disturbed after I finished the first book. I was of course, rather horrified that my little sister who is all of 14 years old, said she wanted to read it after I'm done with the book. (I have stashed the books somewhere in a place where I hope she won't find it. 14-year-olds may be more knowledgable about the birds and bees nowadays but I think whipping and dominance/submission is too much for young mouldable teenage minds to learn about.)

Anyway, I was so hooked that when I finished the first book, I specially made a trip to Popular just to get the other two books because I was dying to know what happened next. It took me a while to finish the trilogy, because you know, life got in the way. But I brought them everywhere, tried to read on the train, while walking, before sleeping, and any other waking moment. When I finished, it felt like - 我的人生再次没有目标。LOL.

In a way, I think I liked reading about Ana and Christian because I could relate to it, like how Ana loves this very very flawed and hurt man wholeheartedly. How they accept each other, flaws and all, how they bring out the best in each other. How they argue over the littlest things, get mad at each other, make up. How they try to learn to communicate. Ana is better at writing out her thoughts instead of speaking them. So am I. I also like Christian despite all his high-handedness and overbearingness because I like men who are a little over-protective LOL. What can I say? Underneath all the kinkiness lies a sweet romance and I am a sucker for romances!

I don't think I've blogged so much about any other book before (perhaps with the exception of Harry Potter). The series is certainly no brain nourishment but if you'd like some mindless entertainment, then it's a pretty easy read.